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Post by Admin on Nov 30, 2017 18:29:04 GMT
Post your responses and/or questions to Session 2 on this thread
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Post by jenniferowens on Dec 17, 2017 21:14:43 GMT
Things that cause me stress:
money/debt/bills, traffic, malls, bright lights, house cleaning, responsibilities, behaviors of others, deadlines, crowds, car repairs, my teenagers, too much noise, working too much.
2.7 Radical Acceptance of True Self
This exercise will help you to gain practice in accepting yourself for who you are and who you wish to be. Answer the questions below, being as honest as you can. Do this exercise at least once per week for the duration of this course, and see how your answers change as you gain more experience in acceptance.
What do you care about? What gives your life passion and meaning?
I care about spending time in nature - hiking, kayaking and just being near trees, mountains and water. I love traveling and experiencing new places and natural areas (especially national parks). I care about spending time with people that I love and making sure they know I love them. I care about learning new things and taking chances. I love my dog and cat and watching them sleep next to each other. I enjoy spending time with my husband, doing active things. I enjoy riding my bike places and feeling the wind on my face. I love my kids and hearing their interesting commentary on life. I care about helping others achieve their goals in my work and growing professionally.
What thoughts, feelings and behaviors generate feelings of blame, guilt or shame in you?
I feel guilty when I do not spend 'enough' time with my family members. I feel guilty when I don't want to do something that is important to someone else. I feel shame when I I have negative thoughts about other and say them out loud (gossip). I feel guilty when I set a boundary that another person won't like. I feel guilty when I do something that I know is bad for the environment (like use a plastic cup). I feel guilty when I want to do things by myself and for myself.
Of the things about yourself above that generate feelings of blame, guilt or shame, do any of them reveal hidden strengths? How? Example: If you get angry easily, could it be because you are passionate about the things you care about? Could this passion be turned into a strength?
hidden strengths - care about not harming others and I have a passion for caring for the environment
What are some ways that you could accept these feelings of blame, guilt or shame as parts of yourself without having to buy into them? Are there any ways that you could think about these feelings and thoughts so that they are no longer a problem? Be as specific as possible in your answers.
I could accept that other peoples feelings and energy is not my responsibility and that I can only manage my own. I can feel comfortable with my own negative feelings and accept them with kindness as part of human living, which could in turn help me feel more comfortable when others are feeling negatively - it is not my fault or my responsbility.. Setting boundaries is part of normal interactions and friendships and can be loving - it helps people feel more safe and comfortable as they know what you need and expect from you.
How would these different ways of believing and behaving about your thoughts and feelings create a more compassionate and positive reality in your life? To complete this section, you may wish to draw upon your responses to the Power of Intention exercise from Session 1.
More acceptance and compassion with my own needs could help me to grow more and find inner peace. Being able to let go of things that are not in my control and that are not my fault could help me to spend less time upset and uncomfortable and trying to control situations.
What would have to change about the way you view yourself in order for you to be able to live more fully in your True Self?
I would need to change the view that its not ok for people to be upset or uncomfortable, especially due to something I have said or a boundary I have set. I would also need to accept my true nature and not try to be something I am not - which would free me from guilt and allow me to rest fully in what is. Sometimes I care about what people think and I wonder if I am doing it "right" and my true self does not have time for that. The main thing about the way I view myself that would need to change is the constant questioning and relentless confusion and doubt around my actions around others. This only leads to negative thinking and trying to be something that I am not.
What strengths do you possess that will allow you to make those changes?
I have an adventurous spirit and could utilize that to help me have more fun in the moment, instead of spending time analyzing my words, behaviors and decisions. I am also intelligent and endlessly curious and I could use those strengths in the moment to guide my actions from a place of strength rather than a place of fear.
What are some potential things that could go wrong when you plan to make those changes?
I worry often that if I let my tradition guards down (that were erected during times of trauma in my history) that I will end up hurting myself or someone else - as I can have a tendency for reckless abandon in its extreme.
What are some potential solutions if those things go wrong?
I could check in with other people and let them know that I am working on some changes and if I do anything to hurt them, could they please let me know.
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Post by Admin on Dec 19, 2017 14:06:23 GMT
Reading your responses, I gather that you may have already had some experience with mindfulness. One of the hardest things for me to let go of on my own journey was trying to be responsible for the emotions of others. Sounds like you're well on your way!
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Post by Katie LaPlant on Jun 30, 2018 11:19:21 GMT
Session 2: Radical Acceptance
2.1 Things That Cause Me Stress
Name: Katie LaPlant
Date: 6/30/18
Think about some of the things in your life that have caused you stress. List a few of these things in the space below. You don’t have to fill up all the spaces on the list, but try to think of at least 3 or 4 things to list below.
1. Clients who cancel all the time.
2. Narcissistic people.
3. Needy people who are never satisfied.
4. People who do not respect boundaries.
5. Being overscheduled.
6. Messy and unorganization.
7. Financial worries.
8. People having expecatations of me that I cannot fulfill.
9. My neighbor.
10. My overthinking.
2.7 Radical Acceptance of True Self
Name: Katie LaPlant
Date: 6/30/18
This exercise will help you to gain practice in accepting yourself for who you are and who you wish to be. Answer the questions below, being as honest as you can. Do this exercise at least once per week for the duration of this course, and see how your answers change as you gain more experience in acceptance.
What do you care about? What gives your life passion and meaning? I care about my children and their well-being. I care about living my life with purpose and meaning. I care about people. Helping people learn how to take care of themselves is my passion. Helping them to understand how society, culture, family and religion has impacted their thinking and teaching them how to live more intuitively is my ultimate passion. Connecting with God through nature is my passion.
What thoughts, feelings and behaviors generate feelings of blame, guilt or shame in you? Thoughts that I have disappointed or hurt someone. Thoughts that I have done something wrong or thoughts that I am wrong and not good enough.
Of the things about yourself above that generate feelings of blame, guilt or shame, do any of them reveal hidden strengths? How? Example: If you get angry easily, could it be because you are passionate about the things you care about? Could this passion be turned into a strength? Yes… My strength is that I am an empath and I am very aware of how other people feel. I am very in tune and sensitive to the needs of others and this makes me good at helping others to communicate and express themselves and it helps me to understand and be compassionate to their needs because I can feel their emotions.
What are some ways that you could accept these feelings of blame, guilt or shame as parts of yourself without having to buy into them? Are there any ways that you could think about these feelings and thoughts so that they are no longer a problem? Be as specific as possible in your answers. Yes… I know now that these feelings are all part of the grieving process which is a healthy human process of acceptance. In order to accept anything and everything I will encounter these emotions regularly so I do not need to judge them or feel bad. For example if I have hurt someone or done something wrong in order to accept this, I will encounter denial/resistance, anger/blame/resentment, guilt/shame/bargaining, sadness/depression and then acceptance.
How would these different ways of believing and behaving about your thoughts and feelings create a more compassionate and positive reality in your life? To complete this section, you may wish to draw upon your responses to the Power of Intention exercise from Session 1. I love that I understand this process and I don’t need to hold onto or get stuck in those feelings anymore. Because negative feelings can move through me today, I am a much more loving and kind person to be around. I used to be very angry, resentful and defensive.
What would have to change about the way you view yourself in order for you to be able to live more fully in your True Self? I need to remind myself that I am not perfect and never will be and that is okay. Nobody is and I am still lovable and worthy.
What strengths do you possess that will allow you to make those changes?
I am insightful and I love to analize and figure stuff out. This can be detrimental at times to my mental health, but there are parts of it that are really great. I’ve learned to built on the great and let go of the detrimental parts. I am motivated today to make changes.
What are some potential things that could go wrong when you plan to make those changes? Again, I’ve already met these goals for the most part. The things that went wrong and can continue to go wrong is that I don’t always take the right path in life. But I am okay with that. Sometimes I take the hard path or the long one and I learn many hard lessons along the way, but I am not afraid of that anymore. I actually think it is necessary to my spiritual growth. The other thing that is rough about going through the feelings and allowing them is that it can be painful and sometimes I need to isolate or go inward for a few days to heal or go through the process. People get hurt and don’t understand when I do this and they sometimes take offense.
What are some potential solutions if those things go wrong?
Acceptance. It’s always about acceptance, forgiveness, grace and understanding. And prayer. Prayer is so big and key for me.
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